I’ve been quiet until now about the Lindsay Clancy trial. Jeshua and Mary Magdalene intentionally guided me away from actually watching the trial or paying attention too closely.
Not because it isn’t important or relevant, and not because they wanted me to bypass the emotions it would stir up for me. But because they didn’t want my intuition clouded by what was being said in the trial. There was something they wanted me to feel without seeing anything else.
And that is that Patrick Clancy is responsible. The healthcare system is responsible. Both things are true. There is a fight right now going on between sides. Some people are hellbent in their conviction that he unalived his children, and some people are pissed about that because the conversation should be focused on maternal mental health.
But the thing is that they are not separate. Whether or not he did it, he is responsible for Lindsay’s mental health. He is not free of culpability in his children’s deaths, and neither is the healthcare system.
I know deep in every bone of my body that postpartum depression & psychosis would not be an issue today if the patriarchy didn’t exist.
Not because erratic hormones aren’t real. Not because the shift into motherhood isn’t naturally brutal. And not because the trauma of birth isn’t real.
These things are real. They are natural. They are valid.
But the systems, including marriage, have us ignoring them. In a world where the patriarchy didn’t run things, we would be married to partners who truly love us and would see our pain before it becomes a problem. They would take care of us in equal measure to how we take care of the babies.
And the healthcare system would do the same.
We would be given rest and nurturing. We wouldn’t be told to ignore the trauma that birthing a human causes. No matter how smoothly things go, childbirth is trauma, but we are taught to ignore it. We are taught to suppress it until it festers into depression, anxiety, and psychosis.
In a world without the patriarchy, we would understand how to name the trauma and heal from it before that happened.
In a world without the patriarchy, we wouldn’t be married to Patrick Clancys who treat us like their children’s caretakers while they continue to live their lives as if nothing changed.
We wouldn’t be blaming ourselves for things that are being done to us or for how our physical and emotional bodies react to childbirth and postpartum.
We would be married to our true loves and our relationships would be balanced and full of real, non-obligatory love instead of transactional, gender-role-based “love” that centers on men and on validating our own value in boxes we don't belong in.
Our doctors would know exactly how to care for us as women and not as numbers, and the care would be individual and not “standard”.
We would be believed. Our husbands and doctors would trust our intuition and not shame us for having thoughts that aren’t within our character. They wouldn’t overmedicate us and instead would give us the true support we need.
I believe Patrick Clancy was abusive. I may not have watched the trial, but I have seen and heard enough.
The problem is that this kind of abuse is normalized behavior in relationships. It’s completely unseen because it doesn’t look abusive to outsiders. They look like the good guy.
And to most people they are good. Just not to the woman they chose to spend their life with, because they chose her to be the one to hold everything together while silently upholding all his own thoughts and beliefs. Because this is how men like that feel their own worth is measured in society. But to require that of a person, requires emotional manipulaton. It requires mental and physical overload. It requires removing her voice. It requires emotional burnout wondering why you don't feel loved and supported. Wondering why you're not deserving of it.
Women are rallying around Lindsay because we all see ourselves in her and we see our partners in him. We see the lack of support she had as our own. The absence. The dismissiveness. The choosing to go out with friends over taking care of us during our most vulnerable time. Having affairs while we take care of the kids and losing our minds because they’re gaslighting us into thinking that we’re the problem. That we’re overreacting to the lack of care. That we’re crazy or too sensitive when our gut tells us something is wrong in our relationship. That we could be doing more to take care of ourselves, the babies, and the house, while we’re already drowning.
The world has made these things normal, but it shouldn’t be normal, and it doesn’t have to continue to be normal if we all stand up and say enough is enough.
If we all name it for what it really is: Emotional Abuse & Neglect.
Patrick Clancy took this to a whole new level and Lindsay’s case is an extreme. So it’d be easy to look away and say no, this isn’t like my situation. But just because it’s an extreme version, doesn’t mean it’s not similar or that your own situation doesn’t need examining. It doesn’t mean that you don’t need to heal from what you’ve been through or that you should continue to put up with lack of support at home and in your medical care.
When people say seek help, they don't realize that most have no idea what that means. They have no idea that there is no true help for many people. But that doesn't mean that all is lost. Stand in your power and your inner knowing. When something doesn’t feel right, like adding yet another medication that won’t help, stand in that knowing. When you feel that your husband should be doing more and loving you better, stand in that knowing. You are not crazy or overreacting.
And you are not alone.
I am building a community. A movement to heal all women from societal gaslighting and systemic abuse using the same path I took to heal myself. My path was guided by Jeshua and Mary Magdalene, and they have taught me all that I need to know to be your guide down the same path. The path to releasing this trauma from your somatic field and finding what your heart truly knows and wants. To standing in your power and giving yourself the love, support, and strength the world has deprived you of.
You don’t have to resonate with Jeshua or Mary Magdalene. They are simply my teachers. This is not about worshipping a power outside of you. This is about self-devotion. Self-love. Self-healing.
It's about finding a community of people who will truly help you, listen to you, and believe you. People who will offer genuine support and hold up mirrors so you can see truth through the noise of the trauma and your situation.
And it’s free.
I believe all women should have access to this support and this kind of healing. I believe it will save the world
I believe we will save the world.
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